The Work of tgirlqueensland
As a young teen I would sit in my room and draw. In the stairwell of the dark apartment building where we lived after the divorce, I would watch my best friend Rocky draw. He was gentle. His drawings were violent. Mine were like me at the time; benign, sad, and lonely. Rocky’s pencil scratched out lines that turned into severed limbs and heads. These always belonged to women. In heels. I never knew why, I never asked him but it didn’t matter. I thought he was a genius.
I drew fantasy creatures. On their own - devoid of companionship - lost in this world. Like me, I think Rocky was alone. Sitting here now at 59 I realise that back then, I somehow knew he should have been born a girl.
He was the first person I collaborated with. We didn’t use that word but we had discovered a way to merge our two styles of drawing to create fantastical works of art that once my mother saw, caused her to banish me from the stairwell. After that, I would see him around the building but we never spoke. Our eyes met a few times and I was convinced he could see inside me. I hope he saw that it wasn’t my decision.
A few years passed. I was diagnosed with MRKH and taken to a large hospital far from where we lived. I was born female but there was very little internally to illustrate this. I would undergo the procedure men have to become women. It was invasive and confusing; I was too young. Back then there was no support. No therapist, no empathy, not like there is today. Although, I have found the medical community is far more interested in young women with the syndrome; in transplanted wombs, surrogacy, fertility. As if these were the only critical aspects to life.
Time moved on. I healed physically but it would be a long time until emotional or psychological relief would come. I was left to figure this out for myself.
I believe I was saved by my creativity and the gay community. Not intentionally. I simply gravitated towards gay men and drag queens, felt comfortable in their company. I was accepted. They were for the most part, the family I never had. I hurt for them and the discrimination they faced. My syndrome is invisible. Unless I tell someone, there is no way to know. They had and have a whole different set of challenges to deal with.
Recently I met Rinda (Tgirlqueensland) on Instagram. One day I was there, she was there. Time zones apart. I was feeling like I had come to the end of the road creatively. It’s hard to get your work out there now, the marketplace is saturated and technology is not my strength. And I have always skirted social media’s edges with a mixture of contempt and curiosity, never staying long, never believing in its cyber-promises. But suddenly, I was back on the stairs with Rocky.
Rinda and I come from different worlds and yet, there are crossovers I relate to. She was diagnosed with letters as well. Hers more complex and I believe, much harder to deal with. The full story and how she can be supported can be found here.
Despite everything she has experienced throughout her life, she has emerged fierce with bravery, grace and dignity, her creative self burning brighter and more potent for it.
The stunning and imaginative images featured here are her work, her creations. They form part of her journey. The jewellery she adorns was made by me.
Her talent and creative idea generation span a vast continuum from digital art to editing to riveting video production. She is a product reviewer and spectacular Art Model. Her profound and honest observations about life and ability to express these in a way I haven’t read before are inspirational. Collaborating with her, having her as a Brand Ambassador has reignited interest in my work and this includes my own interest.
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Telling stories and making jewellery since the days of big hair and eyeliner.